Its that time of year again.  Some of you have already started the Texas summer possession schedule while others will begin the standard July 1-31 summer possession in a few days.  As a Texas family law attorney, I've witnessed firsthand the stress and conflict that custody exchanges can bring to both parents and children. Whether you are preparing for the upcoming exchange or just your typical "every other" weekend schedule and based on years of family law litigation, I offer the following 5 tips are to help make exchanges as smooth as possible:

1. Prioritize Your Child's Well-being: Remember, custody exchanges are not about you or your co-parent; they're about your child's emotional and physical well-being. Approach each exchange with a positive attitude, focusing on your child's needs and comfort. If it is difficult to stay "positive" then at least neutral.  None of the countless Judges I have practiced before care if you and your co-parent like or can even stand each other but they do expect you to behave as adults and focus on, at minimum, a non-eventful exchange.  Avoid arguing or discussing sensitive topics in front of them.

2. Adhere to the Custody Schedule: Be punctual for pick-ups and drop-offs. Consistency and predictability are crucial for children during transitions. (Not to mention just respectful to everyone's time and reduces overall trust and stress.) If unexpected circumstances arise, communicate with the other parent promptly and respectfully to adjust the schedule as needed.  

3. Prepare in Advance: Gather your child's belongings, including clothes, medications, comfort items, and any necessary documents, well before the exchange. This will help ensure a smooth transition and minimize last-minute stress for both you and your child.  If the child has medications, are there enough to last the visitation period?  Have you and your co-parent discussed and implemented a "two-home essential" approach.  

4. Maintain Open and Respectful Communication: Communicate openly and respectfully with the other parent about any concerns or logistical issues regarding the exchange. Consider using a shared calendar or co-parenting app to facilitate communication and avoid misunderstandings.

5. Keep the Exchange Brief and Business-like: While it's tempting to catch up or discuss issues during the exchange, try to keep it focused on the transition of your child. This can help minimize potential conflict and ensure the focus remains on your child's well-being. If you need to discuss other matters, schedule a separate time to do so.

Remember, these are just a few general tips.   By prioritizing your child's well-being, adhering to the schedule, preparing in advance, maintaining open communication, and keeping the exchange brief and business-like, you can help ensure smooth and positive custody exchanges for everyone involved.